encourage our young adults

When are we going to stop pampering our young adults. There comes a time when they need to be encouraged to look beyond themselves and see that they can be an assest to a situation instead of listening to their every like and dislike and catering things to them. We need to encourage them to see the benefit in being around people outside their age range. They need to look to ways that they can be an encouragement and make something better instead of expecting everything to be rearranged for them simply because they don't think they will like it. They go off to college and will be with many different types of people and in classes with professors whose style of teaching they might not like - do we allow them to complain and expect Momma and Daddy to fix it all for them or do encourage them to accept the challenge and rise above it and learn from it and even make the situation better by their presence - let them know they have things to offer. I would hope we encourage them not pamper them. The rest of thier life will be filled with accepting challenges and adjusting to them. Let's let them know they can handle it and are special enough to make things better.